we go through the motions of the social ocean
transpersonal scripts ripple through us
and all sorts of impersonal roles play us
(as in the basic Heideggerian flip:
language speaking us, customs and rituals performing us)
like programs that execute themselves
fixed actions patterns (FAPs) flit through us
and being highly adaptive at it
we adopt a whole gamut of roles,
roles
roles are constraints that enable (social functioning)
every role has a definite degree of freedom
as in what’s allowed and what’s not allowed
what can be expected from self&other and what-not
they come bundled with a set of rules
as to what you can and cannot do, or feel or think or say
within the confines/constraints of those roles
growing up we gotta learn
to distinguish among and detach/disidentify a bit from these roles/rules
one gotta be a man for a woman, for example, not a friend or a father or a son
a father for a son, not a friend or a teacher or a boss
a teacher/leader for students, again, not a friend
and a friend for friends, not a teacher or a father, etc.
and become fully aware that
none of these roles exhaust our essence
we are more than any of the roles/rules that we happen to play