boundary management

the only thing in your control
your ability to monitor and direct
the movement of your attention

invest all your energy in cultivating your FOCUS
stop burning it on things outside your control



a good relationship is a vehicle
not a destination
it is a dynamics of mutual growth
which demands that
you continually nourish
and intermittently stress/stretch it

you couple
and then decouple
in order to recouple at a higher order of dynamics