evolve (self-assembly upgrade #)

learn to thrive on stress/EXPOSURE

if it’s moderate and regular enough
if it’s well managed
you adapt

COMFORT ZONE

your default is the pattern of behaviour you inevitably FALL BACK ON
whenever you are overwhelmed or just plain lazy

this is your comfort zone
that protects you from EXPOSURE

for some EXPOSURE means ‘going out’ (ex-stasis: socializing)
for others it means ‘going in’ (stasis: solitude)
for most of us it means both
sometimes it’s ‘going out’
sometimes it’s ‘going in’

you need to balance this out
decrease RECOIL and increase EXPOSURE

/go against the grain of your default
as much as p

RECOIL

RECOIL is the opposite
of taking action
that EXPOSURE entails

RECOIL is natural
in a space of comfort and free time
one inevitably slips back into old dysfunctional patterns

don’t identify with it
feel it but dont feed it
just acknowledge it, trace and own it
surrender beyond it

/snap out of it
as much as p

“SAY NO”

yes, you gotta learn to say NO
to draw your lines
to assert your personal boundaries
when you’re working on a project, say, and you need to focus
but say NO only at the expense of your lesser self
in other words
say NO to yourself too not just others

how many times do you decline an invitation only because you want to RECOIL into the cocoon of your comfort zone, to be alone in your head, in order to minimize EXPOSURE? or inversely: how many times do you accept an invitation only because you want to RECOIL into the comfort zone of being away from your self, to distract yourself, in order to minimize EXPOSURE?

check & balance your RECOIL

every invitation is an opportunity to go out and hone your social skills, to cultivate your vibing capacity, to network
just as solitude is an opportunity to go in and get in tune with your deeper self

/push yourself
as much as p

ITERATE & EVOLVE

ExPOSE yourself
more and more
and RESIST
less and less

seek more EXPOSURE
and trace your RECOIL

act more with abandon
and
calibrate more after the fact
rather than before

/just breathe and leap right into it
and go through the motions
no matter how bad it feels
as much as p

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