whose team are you in?
or more to the point: why do you keep rejecting yourself?
is it some form of a preemptive strike?
to hedge your bets against others doing it to you?
if you are not then who is on your team?
why do you make it harder for yourself?
granted, some people will be put off by you
but isn’t that enough?
rather than cheerleading: you have to keep bullying yourself?
W T F?
because it’s easy?
because it feels sweet to give in to dejection and use rejection as an excuse to take ownership & responsibility for your life?
how about getting out of your own way, facing your “inadequacy” and addressing it instead?
you could start by listing the ways you are antagonizing yourself
pay more attention