no strings get attached without your permission

without clear intent backing them up
your interactions fray as they escalate



take ownership of the games you play with others

whenever two persons get close and increasingly enmeshed in the intensity of escalating intimacy
their unresolved issues flare up and compel them to enact a drama at the expense of the other

enmeshed in the heat & flesh of intimacy here are a couple of questions you have to ask yourself:

do you get paranoid and recoil from the perceived demands of others?

are you pulling (or rather compulsively luring) the other into an antagonistic role of sorts?

do you actually seek to sidestep the other into ‘neediness’ so you can feel justified in resenting & rejecting them?

isn’t the sucking energy you feel tugging at you something that you attract with your weak personal boundaries in the first place?

one thing’s for sure,
whenever we are out of sync with the truth of the moment
projections taint our interactions

Alan Watts

“To hold your breath is to lose your breath.”

“A society based on the quest for security is nothing but a breath-retention contest in which everyone is as taut as a drum and as purple as a beet.”

“The brain can only assume its proper behavior when consciousness is doing what it is designed for: not writhing and whirling to get out of present experience, but being effortlessly aware of it.”