think of the times when you enjoy engaging someone
what happens there?

you feel felt
you feel appreciated
you feel empowered

your role as a teacher, partner, coach
is to make or rather let other people like/enjoy themselves in your company
rather than seek ways to impress them and make them like you

just allow yourself to feel intrigued again as a child
absorb and probe
dare to explore their world with attentive inquiry

How People React Has Not Much To Do With You

the way you engage others
has to do more with your assumptions
than them
your assumptions reveal more about you
than about others

if you treat others with kid gloves
it means that you assume they are emotionally fragile and over-sensitive

which is kind of patronizing really

be kind but do not be nice!
transparency is the most you can give to others
and most of all: to yourself

Rhythm Is A Dancer

although I purport to post every day on this blog
I had to cease doing so
I had to let the pressure of it go
and revert to post every other day instead
for sometimes I can churn it on a daily basis
but often it poses a real challenge to squeeze new ideas out of my neural tube
being that all I basically share is variations on a couple of themes I hold dear
even though the majority of these ‘insights’ are iterations
they are lighter and brighter versions every time..
at any rate,
usually it happens in lumps
things just pour out and then I post fragments of it for a few days and then I have a dry spell which I try to fill in with quotes that I find insightful
I think this is how musculo-skeletal strength (~alignment) evolves as well
I cannot train day in and day out
there are anabolic and catabolic stretches during the process
there are plateaus and surges and dips
the trick is to align with the undulations
and not choose to be wilfully blind to them
sometimes a long break makes wonders

incidentally, the previous post is a good example of something being forced
in contrast to what’s happening right here
this post is more “in tune”
(and I almost went “all or none” again–so typical of me–abandoning this space for much longer)
but here is the insight:

the idea of doing something on a regular basis quickly turns into a stressor when it loses its context

instead of committing to an abstract idea, an agenda
it makes more sense to stick to the truth of the moment

one has to appreciate the Rhythm
and trust it,
especially when it falters

any attempt at controlling it backfires
since there is no way around the truth

relish the surges and the dips
trace the fluctuations


that is the best you can do!

Agenda vs Exploration

the moment you do something for self-image you are lost

every time you repress a genuine impulse
and give in to the pull of self-image maintenance
you feed your weakness

you stand to “win”
when you feel you have nothing to lose
and you feel you have nothing to lose when you simply let go & act more from a humble, selfless, flow state
lost in the joy of the process
geared towards exploration
rather than fixating on an outcome
and riddled with the frustration of not-yet
grasping, clenching, struggling,
bound by a (self-imposed) agenda,
self-abused by a crippling self-image
you only stand to lose

“He has received the prompts from nature: by ignoring them he is now incapable of distinguishing false from true” — Marcus A