It’s loops all the way. So long as you think that your life is a project to be solved, it will remain a project (problem) to be solved. When you feel that something is missing in your life, it’s precisely because you think that something’s missing in your life. No matter what you do to fill in the gap, so to speak, the underlying sense of lack will generate the compulsion to seek other forms of fillers, endlessly. It’s a subconscious decision. A subliminal thought.
So long as you buy into them, there is no resolution to thoughts. There is no way out of thoughts, they generate loops that feed (into) themselves.
If you don’t want to be entertained by struggling any longer—you let go, but if you want to keep indulging in it—you hold on. As simple as that. Either way is legit.