I is narcissistic and self-obsessed precisely because I is hiding from being seen and therefore being seen & approval is what I craves and what I craves is what triggers an inflammation of the egoic mind when that neurotic need is supposedly met—much like the proximity of the ring impacts Gollum.
The emotional pain that interpersonal interaction inflicts intrapersonally is due to the fact that engaging others is a big deal for ’’me.’’ The ego is fixated on being seen & idolized and/or unseen & unbound.
It’s either a success or a failure. There is a risk of messing up. That’s one of the main hang-ups, which stems from the ’’innocent misunderstanding’’ of disconnectedness.