Feeling inconvenienced by inconveniencing narcissistic others you may ask your narcissistic self: Is it necessary to feel ashamed and let emotional pain overwhelm me again?—to which you may answer: No, it’s not—but still ’you’ will feel ashamed, ’you’ will be triggered because that’s in the nature of ’you’—which is perfectly OK: neurotic reaction patterns are to be allowed rather than resolved. Personally, I think of it in terms of the image of a black hole that starts siphoning off my energy—which I simply acknowledge and relax into it, letting the event horizon to ’’Eat everything up, drain my glycogen, drain me, exhaust me as you please. I don’t mind. it’s OK.’’ Typically, once I let it devour me it suddenly loses its appetite, so to speak.
/It figures: much like in dieting where all the effort results in the opposite of its intended effect the good old principle of ’what you resist persists’ applies here too.