There is a paradigmatic difference between going along to get along (or playing the social human game) out of choosing to do so and out of fear of not doing so. Fundamentally, it’s the difference between engaging others for real or being real with them as opposed to being fake or engaging others primarily to humour & please them. While the latter amounts to nothing more but plain sailing across the vacuous ocean of fear, adrift, forever seeking, the former ushers traversing rough patches of meaning, freely, lived as love.
Nails it in a simple question: Do you want to know what’s real or hesitate in the face or fear?
Some cool pointers from Jordan Peterson:
- Some games you don’t get to play unless you’re all in. [~live life to the fullest]
- Don’t steal other people’s problems. [~the most you can offer is help others help themselves]
- Sacrifice relationships that retard the unfolding of (your) truth. [~the most you can give to others is your truth]
- Instead of aiming to be the entity without flaws aim to be the entity that continues to recognize and integrate its flaws. [~happiness is a byproduct of facing your fears]
It’s simple and it’s all already given. It speaks for you as well as acts and reacts through you if you let it. Its logic and rationale is undeniable. Let it prevail at the expense of your self & your others.
Hide or willingly die—show up—as drips of precum inside the tight pants of your sheltered life or the full-fledged lasso trail of spurting ejac out there in the naked. Stop faking to be impotent and lame, pick your goddam lane. Choose the slow slide into the deeper folds of fear or let love shed you, just like that.
The most you can give is presence. No rhetoric trumps your genuine presence. Doesn’t matter how smart or cogent and convincing you sound: it’s your presence—that’s light and spacious in essence—that is the most efficacious argument and the truest of propositions that there is. All the rest is nonsense.
You have nothing to lose but your face which is always-already tailor-made and fake. Let that inner cripple freely ripple. Cling to no cringe. Be the no-one that you truly are. Off the hinge. Off the cuff. Dance your own brand of breakdance.