what a beautiful phrase:
no strings attached
no strings means
that you give
you don’t expect anything in return
it’s selfless
what arises through you
whatever pops up as an impulse
you just simply “express”
you are not seeking to make an “impression” that holds your self-image in place
you are not a puppet or a slave to (the micromanagement of) your self-image
no,
you entangle with others from a neutral position
in the moment
free of any judgment and stories filtering your flow
you know exactly what you want
and you go for it
regardless of the specter of rejection
you are ready to take rejection
ready to roll with the thrill of it
you don’t let your behaviour be dictated by scripts, idea(l)s, and, in general,
a narrative temporality that warps your engagement with yourself & others
there are no strings attached
yes
no strings means
that you don’t just passively slide into roles and social algorithms
living a life external to you
a placid life that’s expected of you
no strings means
you have no mercy
you align
you stand for and assert
clarity and directness
you admit & own
what you want
you are transparent about it
and take nothing personally
you don’t allow any strings shove you around like a puppet
you don’t anxiously speculate, you don’t project or calculate
instead you shove yourself
you push yourself over the edge
and have them chips fall where they shall
Emerson called it self-reliance
Cook calls it being in your prime
and we could simply call it being real
[now bracket all of this above
and divide it by the qualifier: as much as humanly possible]
d e c o n s t i p a t i o n 