If you decide to engage her then never argue with her. Never ever argue with her, only play with her. And escalate. Mess with her a little and then face the chaos, ride the waves of her tsunami that brings you deeper into the unknown, far from the shore (of what’s sure).
Your capacity to give and to receive grows in proportion to the depth of your presence. The best partner there is is the person who is capable of receiving all that you have to offer and who challenges you to open further to become capable of receving more of what they have to offer in return.
Guys, let me paraphrase David Deida: they are waiting for someone to stop them from their patterns to open as love, you are not being a bad person intervening in their life, they are waiting to be opened as love; they want to be seen; they want to be taken.
There is always the choice between going with the TRUTH or HOLDING BACK (aka feeding into the fearful ego). When a girl arouses you and you feel like engaging her but hold back instead (to maintain your cool and not risk losing face while hoping for her to initiate) you deny the TRUTH and more importantly you refuse to GIVE her BACK the GIFT that she is giving you by her arousing presence in that moment. Her presence triggers a SPARK in you that can be shared (instead of trying to keep your ego spared). Of course, it’s not necessary at all to do so especially when yo ain’t single, but that can be your truest gift to her: giving back the spark that SHE triggers in you by telling her how she makes you feel (inside and out)—no agenda, no pressure, no demands, no strings attached. Embodying the jolt of the moment. Aligning with the truth and sharing it. She will either appreciate it or she will react out of her own fearful ego and reject or even try and humiliate you. Both ways are OK since it is the truth that she responds to. Nothing is ever personal. If there is a SPARK it is your privilege as a man to initiate engaging her and it is her privilege as a woman to either receive or reject your truthful thrust. For this you must keep your poise and be grounded in your gut, engaging her from the truth of the moment—steering clear of the images the scheming ego automatically starts projecting. If she resorts to playing games with you she is doing so out of frustration over your failing to stay true to her and the truth of the moment. Simple as that. Now go and harass her ass. See where it goes…
Never listen to a woman’s nonsense but do appreciate her essence. No superfood or lifestyle hack can substitute for the magic of the feminine essence. You may be fixated exclusively on her p*ssy, her apple tits and firm, round ass or you may be addicted and emotionally attached to the comforting idea that you project about her (validating presence) but there is so much more that a woman can offer a man.
Every man needs a woman.
A woman, a true woman—a woman grounded in her truth—has the power to heal a man with her touch, her kiss and the warming caress of her juicy depths. And to truly relish a woman the man has to be grounded in his truth respectively. Otherwise he wouldn’t be able to localize the emotional pain, the energetic wound in his body that She can heal by the application of her fingertips and her soft lips.
This is one example.
When a man leads women follow, it is as simple as that, he needs but trust the thrust of his gut, the confusion starts when for some reason he becomes tentative and women become bitchy in response
All a man needs to know about women is that women don’t want to be pleased, they just want to be taken and savored and relished and ravished, women want to feel safe on the side of a man who trusts his heart and brings the truth
seduction is a dance of suction and resistance,
a subtle form of relating in the truth of a polarized moment
it is subtle because it is risqué
let’s study how the serpent games Eve, for instance
it all starts off with an indirect opener:
He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?”
to which she-gullible lass that she is-responds in earnest:
“We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’”
at this critical moment the serpent stays cool,
pushing no agenda, simply offering something that sounds exciting:
“You will not certainly die,” the serpent said to the woman. “For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”
BANG! the serpent penetrates
here we have the scheme for a neat cold approach sequence with the frame of offering (adventure & new experience) which SHE is welcome to take or leave:
1 spot her (NOTICE something relevant about/to her)
2 obey the jolt of the impulse: INITIATE
3 WITNESS the ripples (her resistance, your wobbles): do not eject, lean back, relax
4 move things forward: PROPOSE the next thing
& of course have an ATTACH NO STRINGS mindset from the get-go
SHE will fall for charms because SHE cannot resist,
because SHE is CHAOS
and that’s how the loop of life enacts itself
CHAOS impregnates ORDER and ORDER impregnates CHAOS